License to be parents
I was browsing through the library’s bookshelves and came across this book about 100 important women on history.
It just so happened my eyes were fixed on this page.
I don’t know much about American history but I couldn’t agree more what this lady said.
I am always amazed by the fact how easily one can be a parent if one chooses to.
In today’s society, almost every walk of life is required certain certificates or training in order to practice.
And how about the most important profession of all-parenthood? The answer is none.
No license, no certificates, no certain education or training, no nothing.
Everyone who is anyone gets to be a parent as long as you’re physically fit for the job.
Yet that’s the least important thing a young life would need from its parents.
Of course we give birth in the pursue of maintain our kind, aren’t all species are?
The question we owe to ask ourselves here is whether it’s a responsible act or not?
Given the fact that earth has probably just another 50 or 100 years before doomed due to global warming, why bring a new life to this mess now?
A mess we’re responsible for in the first place yet let our children to bear the consequences.
People break promises even wedding vows in daily life; it’s no wondered how easily we forgot the sacredness of the job.
We knew being a good parent is never easy, especially when the ones who have failed don’t tell us much.
So much need to be learned, so little can be taught.
No test can determine if you’re a parent material and no guidelines to follow in becoming one.
The only golden rule we can be sure of is unconditional love. Some may possess this quality while others only claimed to be. Worst of all is to treat your own unfairly in the name of “unconditional love”.
This is just “conditional love” in disguise that some choose to believe.
Surely one’s life achievements don’t entirely depend on good/bad parenting.
Never the less it plays a significant role in one’s childhood that concerns one’s character building.
In other words, parents are indeed responsible for what their children will become.
Don’t take the job simply because you can, do so because you can do it responsibly.
We are talking about a person’s life here; it’s never too much to make a big deal about it.
Every child is an individual who deserves to have his/her own future.
The only thing a parent should hope to gain from this relationship is affection, nothing more.
If you try to look for something else, may be this job just isn’t for you.
Remember it’s the hardest job ever, no need to feel ashamed if you’re not cut out for it.
You always have a choice to act responsibly.
Don’t whin about how strange it’d be if you don’t get married or have children.
It’s always better than ruin one’s life.
So think twice before you leap because “If you bungle raising your children, I don't think whatever else you do matters very much.”
And this is not from me but one of the 100 important women on history.